Scott's mom went to the hospital this morning to get her hip replacement. I am still waiting to hear how it went. Scott is there at the hospital. Scott's dad is recovering well from his surgery.
Scott has been busy with work and school (biology class). It is Scott's birthday tomorrow - and as luck would have it - he is working (a 24 hour shift) - so we are finding it difficult to squeeze in a celebration with everything else that is going on.
Conner has been diagnosed with ADHD (by a psychologist), and we started him on medication this week. People seem to have strong opinions about ADHD medication - either people are for it or totally against it. As a parent, it is not an easy decision to make. We have been through this before with another of Scott's children - we tried diet, natural meds, etc... and nothing seemed to work, but the medication did work. However, even in saying that and knowing that, it is hard (it was a hard decision then with the other son, and it is hard now with Conner - he is only 5 years old). The side effects are always a worry. But things can not continue (at school) the way they are. Conner has had major difficulties since the first day of school. He goes to time out repeatedly throughout the day. And the PE coach is beside himself, he doesn't even know what to do with Conner... My instinct is just to bring Conner home and keep him home - lock the door and never let anyone in and never let Conner out. I want to protect him. Conner frequently cries about school. He says it is "hard" because he gets into trouble so much. He doesn't like going to "time-out all the time." He wants to "be good," but it is "hard." Conner has difficulty focusing and he has poor impulse control. So we will try the medication and see how that goes. Obviously locking him up with me for the rest of his life is not an option. I love him and I want to give him the best possible life I can. We are also doing behavior modification intervention with him, to help him gain the skills he needs. Scott and I are doing everything we can as parents to give him the structure and support and love he needs to be successful. But this has been "hard" on us too....
On Friday I ate an 8 x 8 pan of brownies - practically by myself - and like I told Scott later, I didn't even skip any meals - I ate my meals and the brownies too. So...that is how I am coping (or not)... I am just glad I didn't make a 9 x 13 pan of brownies! You would think I would be satiated on brownies - but I woke up Sunday morning thinking of brownies again.... So far I have been able to resist... although tomorrow is Scott's birthday and some sort of tasty treat will need to be made - I just hope I don't eat the whole thing myself!
This month's First Presidency Message is entitled "Saints For All Seasons," in the message President Uchtdorf says:
"We have seasons in our lives... Some are warm and pleasant. Others are not. Some of the days in our lives are as beautiful as pictures in a calendar. And yet there are days and circumstances that cause heartache and may bring into our lives deep feelings of despair, resentment, and bitterness.
"I am sure at one time or another we have all thought it would be nice to take up residence in a land filled only with days of picture-perfect seasons and avoid the unpleasant times in between.
"But this is not possible. Nor is it desirable.
"As I look over my own life, it is apparent that many of the times of greatest growth have come to me while passing through stormy seasons.
"Our all-wise Heavenly Father knew that for His children to grow into the beings they were designed to become, they would need to experience seasons of adversity during their sojourn in mortality. The Book of Mormon prophet Lehi said that without opposition, “righteousness could not be brought to pass” (2 Nephi 2:11). Indeed, it is life’s bitterness that allows us to recognize, contrast, and appreciate its sweetness (see D&C 29:39; Moses 6:55).
"President Brigham Young put it this way: “All intelligent beings who are crowned with crowns of glory, immortality, and eternal lives must pass through every ordeal appointed for intelligent beings to pass through, to gain their glory and exaltation. Every calamity that can come upon mortal beings will be suffered … to prepare them to enjoy the presence of the Lord. … Every trial and experience you have passed through is necessary for your salvation.”
"The question is not whether we will experience seasons of adversity but how we will weather the storms. Our great opportunity during the ever-changing seasons of life is to hold fast to the faithful word of God, for His counsel is designed not only to help us weather the storms of life but also to guide us past them. Our Heavenly Father has given His word through His prophets—precious knowledge designed to lead us through the challenges of difficult seasons toward the unspeakable joy and brilliant light of eternal life. It is an important part of our life’s experience to develop the strength, courage, and integrity to hold fast to truth and righteousness despite the buffeting we may experience.
"Those who have entered the waters of baptism and received the gift of the Holy Ghost have set their feet on the path of discipleship and are charged to follow steadily and faithfully in the footsteps of our Savior.
"The Savior taught that the sun rises “on the evil and on the good, and … rain [falls] on the just and on the unjust” (Matthew 5:45). Sometimes we cannot understand why difficult, even unfair, things happen in life. But as followers of Christ, we trust that if we “search diligently, pray always, and be believing, … all things shall work together for [our] good, if [we] walk uprightly” (D&C 90:24).
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